Say "I Don't"
Updated: Jun 24, 2022
Loving someone should come easy, be peaceful and it should allow you to become a better version of yourself.
Television shows often highlight couples getting engaged. Many can become mesmerized looking at their social media platforms by the person getting on one knee and asking, “will you marry me”, while a shining ring sits inside a decorated box waiting patiently to be placed on the empty finger. Spectators sigh in “awwww” as they also patiently await this strangers’ response. Say yes, is what everyone wants. I myself have found myself numerous times just looking at the pictures or videos and smiling as “LOVE IS IN THE AIR”!
The expectation is to jump up and down and graciously accept while Prince Charming awaits the answer “Yes, I do- I will marry you”! But deep down inside there’s a silent pain and conflicted heart that so desperately wants to say “NO-NO, I don’t want to marry you”!!
But that takes some courage- real courage!!
Especially when everyone is watching and waiting! We can’t disappoint them,
Loving someone should not have to be that hard!
Loving someone should not have to be that hard! You should not feel exhausted trying to get along or communicate. We get into relationships even before saying I do, knowing darn well there were so many red flags but we kept hoping for a better tomorrow!
During the dating process is when each person puts on their “best face”, trying to
impress each other as if they are engaging in a sales transaction wishing and
hoping for the best deal.
So, if that is their best during the sales process, what do you expect to happen, once that ring is placed on that finger and the sales transaction says final “Congratulations, you are now MARRIED!!
Words of Wisdom
Here are some words of wisdom; You do not have to “wish upon a star” that your bae will change or that things will get better once you say, “I do”. How about loving yourself better and enough to say “I don’t to abuse, or I don’t to rejection, I don’t to you cheating on me, I don’t to ridicule and verbally abusive language, I don’t to -not trusting you, I don’t to you ignoring my phone calls and trying to figure out where you are, I don’t to YOU and to the madness!
Loving someone should come easy, be peaceful and it should allow you to become a better version of yourself. This person will encourage you to follow your dreams and motivate you to go after that vision that you spoke of in the past.
Most importantly, they will care for your heart. Of course, you will have conflict that you will each need to work through, grow and learn from. However, if the relationship has a higher percentage rate of heartache, trust issues, and toxicity - say I DON’T and RUN away. You can do better all by yourself boo! You got this!
Reflections of @soulsconversationswith z.