Grief for me can be described as a long silent pause....
Grief is messy, it’s hard, it’s painful, debilitating, and it changes you into someone you never knew existed.
It is the transformation from the old you, to the new you. Sadly, you do not get a choice to choose this new you. But you do get a chance to decide and work through the pieces and difficult cards you have been dealt with.
Grief for me can be described as a long silent pauseee..... where your brain tries to catch up to the reality of your new life. It is that dense and heavy fog that clears out, little by little, as you take one step at a time and struggle to find clarity.
As you begin discovering the new you, please be gracious with yourself. Give yourself permission to cry, to laugh, to have fun, take time outs, rest, journal and discover the new you -second by second, minute by minute, hour by hour, and day by day.
Most importantly, do not allow others to rush you through this process. It is a journey, and it is different for everyone. Do not compare yourself to the old self or to others, as everyone's Grief journey is different. Your journey is personal, and it is yours to discover and to travel on.
Grief Share taught me that, “Grief is the price you pay for loving someone”.
Grief Share taught me that, “Grief is the price you pay for loving someone”. Do I regret loving this someone in order not to grieve? Absolutely not! I would love this person all over again, even if it means losing my old self and rediscovering the person that stands on the other side of the mirror each morning; perplexed, peaceful, loving, sad, frustrated, joyful, determined, fearful, exhausted, resilient, and strong.
Me, Meet the New Me.
Zachyra Rodriguez
In loving memory of my wonderful son, Anthony and my amazing dad.
Gone too soon, but never forgotten.
Zachyra Rodriguez, LCSW, CCATP, CFD