How to Recognize the Signs and Protect Your Mental Health
Have you ever felt like you’re constantly walking on eggshells around someone? Whether you're a spouse, partner, co-worker, family member, or friend, they seem to expect more than you can give, leaving you drained and overwhelmed. If this resonates, you might be in what I call a high-maintenance relationship.
As a psychotherapist specializing in trauma, grief, anxiety, depression, and relationships, I often work with clients who feel emotionally depleted by relationships that constantly take without giving. It’s like being in an “Emotional Parasite” dynamic, where your efforts are never enough to satisfy the other person.

What Is a High-Maintenance Relationship?

It’s any relationship where the emotional, physical, or psychological demands feel excessive. This person might need constant attention, reassurance, or swing between extreme moods, leaving you anxious and on edge. These relationships can feel like a never-ending cycle of demands, and no matter how much you give, it’s never enough.
Examples of High-Maintenance Relationships
With a Friend: A friend might constantly need validation or attention, frequently calling or texting, expecting you to be available whenever they need support.
With a Partner: Your spouse or partner may demand constant emotional support, becoming upset if you want personal space or time with others. You might feel like you're always trying to "fix" things.
With a Co-Worker: A co-worker may rely on you to solve their problems, often needing approval or help, which distracts you from your own tasks.
With a Family Member: Family members may lean on you for support without considering your emotional boundaries, expecting you to always be available, regardless of your own needs.
Signs of a High-Maintenance Relationship
Constant demands for attention, leaving little room for yourself.
Emotional volatility, where peace turns into drama without warning.
Frequent conflict, making it hard to relax and find peace.
A lack of personal space, with constant expectations of your time and attention.

The Impact on You Being in a high-maintenance relationship can quickly take a toll on your mental health. You may start feeling anxious, lose sight of your own needs, and even experience guilt for not being able to meet their constant demands. Over time, you can feel isolated, overwhelmed, and like you’re struggling to keep it all together. But it’s okay to acknowledge when a relationship is taking more from you than it should. Whether it’s with a partner, friend, or colleague, your well-being matters too.
How to Find Balance in High-Maintenance Relationships

Recognizing that a relationship is draining you is the first step toward finding balance. Is it adding positively to your mental health or depleting you? It’s not about blaming the other person; it’s about creating space for both of you to thrive. Relationships should be supportive and mutually fulfilling. Ask yourself if this relationship allows you to be your best self. Are you constantly sacrificing your well-being to meet someone else’s needs? If so, it’s time to set boundaries and ensure you’re getting what you need too.
How I Can Help
If you’ve found yourself relating to the challenges I’ve shared, you’re not alone. Whether you’re dealing with a high-maintenance relationship or looking for ways to set healthier boundaries, I’m here to help you navigate this journey. Together, we can work on strategies to bring more balance and peace into your relationships and life.
Ready to take the next step?
Feel free to reach out for a consultation or to learn more about how we can work together. I’d love to support you on your path to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Remember, you matter!

Zachyra Rodriguez
LCSW, CCATP, CFD
Healing Grounds Wellness Center
609-475-2560
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