Every January, the same pattern repeats itself. We make promises to ourselves—This is the year I’ll finally get it together. We set New Year’s resolutions with the best of intentions, yet by February, and honestly sometimes sooner, many of them fade away. From a therapeutic perspective, real change begins with understanding, not motivation. Behaviors we want to change often serve a purpose, such as managing stress, avoiding discomfort, or feeling in control. Without addressing why a...